Do you ever pause for a moment to consider what drives you? In my experience, most people don’t. They’re basically on autopilot and not considering why they think what they think, feel what they feel and so do what they do.
It is said that there’s no real success in life until you first achieve personal growth and behavioural changes. This is what’s at the core of personal growth as opposed to traditional self-help motivation.
Let’s take a look at what drives people. The truth is there are many factors involved, including personality, parental influence, environmental circumstances and many more.
This millennium’s generation of business people, are the first to face a dual purpose of profit and meaningful life,” says Caroline Myss, psychologist and author of the best-selling book: “Anatomy of The Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing” (Harmony Books, 1996.). She adds, “Never before were leaders allowed to have a heart or ask, ’Who am I?’’. Nobody is immune to this crisis of spiritual seeking. Business has always been the solid foundation of life. But now this rock-hard level of society is finally experiencing its own spiritual cataclysm.”
You are now in the real world of anxiety and stress. And I love this line, if you thought climbing the career ladder was tough, try climbing without one. The end of the historical hierarchical structure has freed up many people but it has also left them confused according to Caroline Myss, “the longer you were with an organisation, the more respect you gained. Now experience doesn’t count. To get to the next level of success, you need to make a quantum leap, which requires a burst of energy which many people just don’t have.”
To move towards a more fulfilled life you need to analyze what drives you and what is your purpose in life. It is necessary for fulfilment and happiness to have a passion for something and to have a purpose in life.
And there are three components to that purpose:
- Find out who you really are, and why you are here.
- Serve other human beings because we are here to do that.
- Express your unique talents – note that when you are expressing your unique talents you lose track of time.
All those people whom I have met who would be recognized as winners or achievers have certain common denominators that drive them and here they are:
They Plan their Destiny
Having an idea or a concept in mind or being passionate about it isn’t sufficient; you have to have a plan to carry it out. Achievers are people who don’t just act out the day but put in the effort and make sure that they are moving towards their goal. They will have a plan of what needs to get done and when. Then decide which is the most important thing that they could do right now.
They have the desire
The thing is, too many people simply wish they were successful. It’s only when you’re willing to do everything that is necessary to succeed that you’ll find success. Knocking out that extra set at the gym even when you’re exhausted, staying up working your business plan while your competitors sleep. When you continually do things others won’t, you’ll be able to do the things others can’t.
They Develop a Strong Self-Image
They build a powerful picture of what it is they really, really, want and not just hope for and they do this by programming their brain on a daily basis and talking in the present as if it was actually happening
They are Enthusiastic about their Life
They accomplish this by developing a love of what they do and focusing on all the good things that are happening in their life. This is reflected in their actions. Enthusiasm is contagious and can help to create a winning culture.
They possess great Self-confidence
They believe in themselves. They are comfortable with who they believe that they are and capable of completing any task they take on. Their self-confidence is built over time by finding their strengths and building on them.
They are Teachable
They are like sponges and are always willing to learn from others and are always in the pursuit of knowledge. They keep their brains active and invest in themselves by reading a lot and making time to increase their knowledge of important things in life.
They are Patient
You will need to put in the work long before you start to see the results. It takes years of consistent work to build yourself up and be positioned for greatness. The price of success is always paid in advance.
A big problem faced by many people is the choices they want to make. They feel the need to justify those choices to the other people whose life overlaps with their own. Such as relatives, friends and co-workers. The problem is in doing so is they see you a certain way, they’ve put you in a box. And sometimes it’s these people who want to keep you in that box. This can cause a huge amount of upset and it sets off cycles that could have been ingrained over many years.
When this happens, and it will happen, if you can pause, breathe and think to yourself that this person wants the best for you. Your reaction will be different. Your patience, love and understanding will win through. Be aware this could take a lot of time, and a lot of patience and you will make mistakes. And you will fall back to old reactions. But, let me tell you if you want to win, if you want to stay with the person you love, it’s worth any price.
Because, there is a price which must be paid, for everything. You pay a price if things stay the same, and you will have to pay a price if you are to create some sort of change. In every case, there is a price tag.
“What price are you willing to pay?”. The answer to that riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma is what drives you.
Over the next few weeks take the time to evaluate where you are going and what drives you and what is your purpose in life. Make sure it is you who is in the driver’s seat and not someone or something else.