I read this prompt online and decided to try it:
“Identify what I am afraid of, but not even aware I am afraid of it.
Ask 8–10 questions that identify my unconscious fear. Ask them one by one to avoid bias.
Once you have discovered it, tell me what it is and how it is manifesting in my day to day life.”
So I did it.
The questions got almost easier to write answers to. The answers I wrote were often surprising and clear for the first time in a while.
It also made me realise something else:
The people we love are often doing quiet, unseen work. On themselves, on us, on their relationships.
They don’t post about it.
They don’t announce it.
It happens in silent car rides, in the shower, during late-night reflections. And because it’s invisible, it’s easy to miss.
But when they let you see even a glimpse of that work, I feel positive it’s a chance to give them something rare:
Not advice. Advice is generally for the person giving it.
Not fixing. Although I love a good “fix” or “solution”.
A simple acknowledgement, “It means a lot to me that you’re working through this. I’m proud of you. Thank you.”
That moment of being truly seen and supported is where connections deepen.
That’s where trust grows roots.
That’s where love gets safer, stronger.
This week’s motivator:
Be the person who notices the unspoken effort.
Who respects the work without taking it over.
Who makes relationships feel safe to grow in.
Prompt for the week:
What would it mean to your partner if they knew you truly saw the work they’re doing?
