I was listening to Jesse Itzler on the Brad Lea Dropping Bombs podcast and Jesse said something about goals that really stood out for me. If you don’t know who Jesse Itzler is it’s worth checking him out. If only to read about his Big Ass Calendar Club. That’s hilarious, simple and an obvious way to create and then stick to your plan.
On the podcast, he said, “I don’t negotiate with my goals. I won’t negotiate them down.”
That’s a big call. He’s firm on it too. He never negotiates his goals down. Because of that, he’s decisive in the way he goes about setting goals. But that’s another MondayMotivator.
So, how often do you negotiate with your goals?
You’re meant to be out on a 5km run and it’s hosing down and cold? You think to yourself, ‘I’ll turn around here,” but you’ve only run 2km.
You set a target of 10 phone calls today but you’ve had 7 no’s so you call it a day.
Those are examples of negotiating your goals down. And doing that is corrosive to your life. Negotiating your goals down slowly eats away at your potential and could lead to having a bucketload of regrets.
I used to fall into that trap, probably still do sometimes, and it’s taken some time but I’ve got a way to deal with it.
It’s not easy.
It requires me to think and act on the opposite thought immediately.
For example, if I’m out running and feel tired or I’ve had enough I instantly think that’s a sign to push harder and keep going.
Or if I have a proposal to do and I think I’m going to put that off until tomorrow. I make a start right then and there.
Basically when the going gets tough, the tough get going. And you need to be tough in this world. Tough doesn’t mean you are grumpy and angry. Being tough relates to grit and doing what you said you would do either to yourself or others.
It’s turning up. Ready to go. There was a US president who said he didn’t want to go to war but if it knocked on his door he would be ready.
You can be ready by starting with the non-negotiation of your goals. Never negotiate them down. You might need to get better at setting goals that stretch you just beyond where you’re comfortable. And like me, you definitely need to start doing the opposite of what your mind says when it’s defaulting to comfort.
Start today. Take the time to notice your thoughts when you come to doing things you don’t want to do. Especially when they’re good for you. When you have a thought that is negotiating your goals down, think and act on the opposite immediately. This will get you back on track quickly and seriously, it will make you smile when you’ve done the thing and you realise you’re doing something for you.
Have a great week.