Two seeds lay side by side in the fertile soil. The first seed said, “I want to grow!
I want to send my roots deep into the soil beneath me and thrust my sprouts through the earth’s crust above me. I want to unfurl my tender buds like banners to announce the arrival of Spring. I want to feel the warmth of the sun on my face and the blessing of the morning dew on my petals!”
And so she grew.
The second seed said, “Hmmmm. If I send my roots into the ground below, I don’t know what I will encounter in the dark. If I push my way through the hard soil above me I may damage my delicate sprouts … what if I let my buds open and a snail tries to eat them? And if I were to open my blossoms, a small child may pull me from the ground. No, it is much better for me to wait until it is safe.”
And so she waited.
A yard hen scratching around in the early spring ground for food found the waiting seed and promptly ate it!
The lesson – what holds most people back is fear.
Fear of where you might go wrong or fear that if you succeed at something you might find it too difficult to live up to. Fear is paralysing and holds people from even trying.
Have you ever laced your boots for your first big game, shuddering as you’re told to get out there as the game is about to start?
Have you ever been asked to address a small group of people and suddenly the thought of the undertaking flows through every fibre of your being?
What happens is that you focus on what you THINK you can’t do and that thought then becomes dominant and turns into a ‘Forget it!’. So it goes into the mental impossible basket and you don’t take the opportunity to grow yourself or your business.
I’ve been through those sorts of scenarios, so I know how intimidating they can be. If you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can’t possibly achieve it. Psychologically you are putting yourself in a position of weakness and sowing the seeds of failure which isn’t going to help you. You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.
This learned behaviour of self-doubt and self-judgment is often imposed on us by adults who whilst trying to be helpful, plant the seeds of doubt at a very early age. They say things like, “You can’t be a doctor, you didn’t do well at school, or “There’s no money in being an artist,” and so on. You’ve heard them. You might have even said them yourself.
Another factor that influences you at these moments is the mental critics floating in your mind with nothing better to do. Put a lid on those critical voices in your mind, the ones that say “I can’t do it” and “You’re foolish to even try.”
Perhaps a critical parent or teacher and the not-so-supportive friends you think you have, are all in your head when you’re trying to seize an opportunity – theirs. Isolate those little critters and zap them. Self-doubt is one of the major obstacles to living the life you truly deserve.
Preparing your mind for greatness is similar to developing your garden and turning it into a productive patch. In the case of the garden, you would have to prepare the soil before you sowed anything. You would certainly begin by removing all the weeds and then add organic matter.
In the case of your brain, you would remove the mental weeds of limiting beliefs and doubts. The mental organic matter is a strong belief in yourself, meaning strong positive expectations.
Next comes the selection of the seeds which you want to grow and this is achieved by selecting the mental images you plant in your subjective mind. Sowing seeds is a wonderful metaphor that is rich in meaning. Thoughts can be planted into your mind, take root, grow, blossom, and finally bear fruit.
The Good Book says it simply, “As you sow, so shall you reap”.
That is a great maxim to live by and one to keep in mind as you go through life.
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