In this week’s MondayMotivator:
- Negative people can bring you down, so surround yourself with positive people who inspire you.
- Be aware of your own negative thinking and avoid associating with negative people.
- Don’t let the opinions of others control your life, take control and seek out positive experiences.
Negative people can suck the life right out of you and turn a good day into a bad day. There are plenty of people ready to rain on your parade, but only if you let them.
Here is a story to illustrate this idea.
A woman was at her hairdresser’s getting her hair styled for a trip to Rome. She mentioned the trip to the hairdresser, who responded: “Rome? Why would anyone want to go there? It’s crowded and dirty. How are you getting there?”
“That’s a terrible airline!” exclaimed the hairdresser. “Their planes are old, their flight attendants are passed their used-by date and they’re always late. So, where are you staying in Rome?”
“At this nice little place called Teste Hotel.”
“Don’t go any further. I know that place, it’s a dump.”
“We’re going to go to the Vatican and maybe we’ll get to see the Pope.”
“That’s rich,” laughed the hairdresser. “You and a million others. Good luck on this lousy trip of yours. You’re going to need it.”
A month later, the woman again came in for a hairdo. The hairdresser asked her about her trip.
“It was wonderful.” explained the woman, “We were on one of Air Universal’s brand new planes, it was overbooked, and they bumped us up to first class. We had a handsome 28-year-old steward who waited on us. And the hotel was great! They’d just finished a $5 million remodelling job.”
“Really.” muttered the hairdresser, “But I bet you didn’t get to see the Pope.”
“Actually, we were lucky. A Swiss Guard explained that the Pope likes to meet a few visitors, and if we’d be so kind as to step into his private room and wait, the Pope would greet us. Five minutes later, the Pope walked through the door and spoke to us.”
“Wow! What’d he say?”
He said: “Who screwed up your hair so BADLY?”
Do you ever say to yourself, “I’ll never be good at anything,’ “That can’t be done!”
Beware! Because you become like the people you associate with! You’ll constantly be discouraged, develop poor self-esteem and border on some level of depression.
Avoid reading newspapers, TV, books or magazines that may portray or write a story about negative people. Don’t get sucked into negative conversations which are quite easy. Especially if you’re on a down because it helps you to empathise with them. There are plenty of people who are having a bad day and they’re going to take a few people down with them. Just make sure you’re not one of them.
Change a negative conversation into a positive one by using what is referred to as pattern interrupt. You can achieve this by saying for example: “I’m sorry to interrupt, but did any of you see the news about the New Zealand limbless guy who climbed Mt. Everest with the help of only two prostheses?”
Start a deliberate search for Positive Stimulators, those who can inspire and motivate you so you can change your life for the better and totally rid yourself of mental paralysers.
Dr.Steve Maraboli, a Behavioral Scientist specialising in Motivational Psychology and Leadership Dynamics says in his book Life, the Truth, and Being Free, “How would your life be different if you walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.”
Positive stimulators want others to be happy and will go out of their way to help you when you’re feeling down or need some extra special attention. They support you when your down, join in the fun when you’re up, and have wisdom when you’re lost. Instead of listening to the opinions of boring, toxic paralysers, have a more hopeful, fulfilling and richer life by seeking out stimulators who will inspire you to be the best you can be.
This means encouraging you to try new things, achieve goals, and having the kind of life you dream about for yourself.
Many people have approached me about the secret goals they cherish but are ashamed of sharing with others for fear they will be mocked and ask me how they can deal with this.
The answer lies in taking control of what you want to hear and not being controlled by what others want you to hear!
To light a spark within yourselves so that you can realise your own greatness!
Don’t be a Dementor in your own life. Negative thinking is destructive. Be willing to be flexible in your thinking. As Edward de Bono says: “Why have a mind if you can’t change it.”
Make sure you are surrounded by positive stimulators so you can take control and own your life.