Welcome to this week’s MondayMotivator.
There are always things, small things, things that really get under your skin, that you can’t seem to let go.
Problem is, these things are parasites. They burrow. They get deeper.
They latch onto a vein somewhere and live out of sight for the most part. Until they’re not.
They’re here! Right now in front of you like a spectre from a horror movie. Damn right they’re scary. That’s not what they looked like when you buried them. And they certainly weren’t that BIG.
I work hard to let things go. It’s not something that comes natural. You have go that extra level deeper and connect with who you are. That’s confronting. Not many people are willing to do that.
“Just let it go”, people say. If only it were that easy, right?
However, people get hurt when you can’t let things go. Sometimes the person who utters those four words find themselves incurring the wrath you’re feeling. That’s not cool.
So, here’s a few tips for letting things go. They’re simple but they will require you to think about them a lot for a few days and then remind yourself about them from time to time. That way the become the default you and they’re more likely to pop into your head when you need them most.
Reframe the situation – look for the positive. As trite as that might sound it works. There is always a positive to take away from any situation.
Stop. Before you stop reading and hit reply with your story. Think about this. It’s your story. It’s how you see yourself in the world. Unless it’s inspiring you and others to move forward and grow, it’s not a good story.
Find the good. If you can’t, ask someone close to you to do so. There is always something good you can latch onto you might be seeing yourself.
Hit delete. If a situation upsets you when you think about it say, “delete, delete, delete” in your head and move onto something else. I do this and I think it works. This takes a lot of repetition for certain events.
Smile at the idiot (generally you). Smiling stops you from forming anything but a happy thought. If the idiot is you, smile in the mirror. If the idiot is someone else, still smile. It might halt your escalation of a situation.
So just a few tips I trust you will find helpful. If not, I’ll be trying to kickstart your thinking next Monday. I wonder what I’ll write then.
Have a great week.
Glenn “Let it goooooo!” Edley
Quote I’m pondering: “The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it.”
Book I read: “Jonathan Livingston Seagull” by Richard Bach. An easy read and a book I will be coming back to from time to time. Mostly to remind myself that it’s good to be extra-ordinary and that striving to be the best at one thing opens the door to others doing the same.